** 我们在不同的人生阶段, 需要不同的朋友扶持. 小学,我们需要肺气量大的小朋友陪我们... **
我曾经很坚决, 很确定的, 以为自己找到了更好的出路, 信心满满地和我一班好友招了招手, 说了再见, 后会有期.
第一次说再见的时候, 非常伤心; 再说，要洒脱地放下一段友谊, 并不是我所能轻易办到的. 如果说工作只为了养活, 我并不同意. 往往我们基于工作的所需, 在一伙儿里头投下了感情, 结下了巩固的友谊, 以让一个又一个的自已浮上了水面; 同时，我们也渐渐的开始忘却了那一班在大学里陪你一同逃课, 一起敖夜赶功课的舍友. 当你遇到了同样的情况, 别怪自己, 这是人之常情.
我们在不同的人生阶段, 需要不同的朋友扶持. 小学,我们需要肺气量大的小朋友陪我们东奔西跑; 到了中学, 我们都希望认识所有漂亮的异性朋友; 想要在大学轻松学习的, 我们不能少了功课好, 又无怨无悔让我们抄个痛快的良友; 到了社会工作, 能一起喝一喝酒, 倾听我们工作上的怨言的, 会是我们的知心友.
有分别的地方只是我们鲜少在大学结怨; 但在工作上却结下了那虚而不实的怨气. 何以见的? 很容易的, 当一个人要离职的时候, 握了握手, 化敌为友, 所有的怨气, 也会随之散去.
我曾经也痛恨一个人, 他善于取他人功劳, 当自己的. 我也差点儿被他气的想换职. 他不久后也另谋高就去了. 临别时, 我们 握了握手, 他告诉我, 世间险恶, 强肉弱食, 只有狮子能在丛林站得住脚, 路上可能遍布尸体, 但也顾不了. 人不为己, 天诛地灭. 我不怪他, 他言之有理.
很幸运的, 我在工作上认识了一班好友. 他们不曾埋怨我在他们的午餐时间占一位席, 大家一同从北半球, 聊到南半球; 从交换旅游经验, 到交换那包菜的另类用法. 我们无所不谈. 偶尔有某某朋友, 不断的 “放飞机”, 我们都原谅 “她”. 虽然忠言逆耳, 我们仍苦苦劝告 “她” 别为了工作, 冷落了丈夫……
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There has been time I was very firm, and assure, think of I found a better future, sayonara to my dear colleagues. I filled with full of confidence, and say “goodbye, my friend, we will definitely meet again somewhere, some else”.
The first time when I expressed my goodbye to my colleagues, I was very sad. No matter how strong is a man, I believe there is no one there able to let go their built friendly with an easy hand-shake, neither me. If you said, we work because we earned some “rice”, I am totally disagree with it. We always (maybe we don’t expect to be), we made friend while we are working. The more you invest into a relationship; it will definitely change to friendship. At the mean time, you will start to forget those friends who you met them in university; those fellows skipped classes, and worked together with you on the assignment until late of the night. When you come across this situation, don’t blame yourself, this is human nature.
We need difference batches of friends when we reached different stages of life. In primary, We want to play, we need some naughty children to run around the football field with us. By reached secondary, we changed our taste, we wish we can get to know better on every single "leng lui" in the school. Smart and "Kind" students who willingly lending their assignments to us for "photocopy", definitely will be recruited as friends/gangs in college/university life. when we came out to work like a sheep in a deep jungle, we need some friends/colleague to drink beers together with us, sharing our blame on bosses.
Of course, there is a big difference to face when we came out to work, it is we never made enemy in study life, but we did it in working life. But these enemies will not lasting for long, normally our enemies will become our friends once they resigned from their job. There is no forever enemy, but there is friendship last forever.
I had such an experience. I hate a person in my working life, he used to take away others colleague accomplishment, show it to management and pretend it is him. I was almost resigned because of him. After several months later, he resigned from his job. In the last meeting with him, he told me, working life like a jungle, only the strongest will be survive. When you are on your way to the mountain, do not look back, because there may be a lot of death bodies on the road. You can’t care so much. I didn’t blame him on what he done, doesn’t mean I agreed with him, but he spells the truth of working life.
I am very lucky; I get to know some true friends during my working life. They never blame me to get involved in their life, on their lunch. We never stopped exchange our life experience, we finally knew the “special usage of cabbage” from someone. Although, we always have someone always “FFK”, but we forgive her; we always never give-up on giving lecture to “her” not to keep working until late of the night. “Jason” always there to punish those women, who worked late.
To be continued…
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